Happiness Begins with YOU


My Darling,

You look beautiful today. You are positively and wonderfully breathtaking. You are perfect just the way you are and yet I see that you are struggling. I see how hard you are trying to gain back control of your life. I feel the loneliness you’ve been feeling and I am here to tell you that it’s all going to be okay. Nothing is as it seems. The grass is not always greener and where you are is exactly where you should be.

You see, I understand what it’s like to wake up in the morning, put on a happy face and go about the day doing what everyone else wants me to do in order to fit in, not cause conflict and feel loved. I have reached a level of success that made me acutely aware that it did not come packaged along with happiness. Money, a successful career, hundreds of elite friends and a stick thin figure, while it all seems like the ultimate way to live, it does not produce happiness. I understand what it’s like to work hard, day and night for so long to make my dreams come true and then once I got there, realized it was not what I expected. I used to look in the mirror and hate what I saw. Picked apart everything about myself: “Change this, change that. You need new teeth, what is that disgusting mole on your leg? Go to the gym! You’re not thin enough.” My mind would race, a mile a minute, finding the craziest things to hate about my body. I understand the struggle, I’ve been  through hell and back, hit rock bottom and almost killed myself trying to be perfect. It shouldn’t be this way and it wasn’t always this way.

Imagine how your life would change if you loved yourself? Truly, unconditionally loved and admired everything about who you are? Like you love your dog, your cat, your child, your car, your Chanel purse or your morning latte from Starbucks. How would that change the way you see yourself? What if you started looking in the mirror and rather than criticizing what you saw, you noticed how beautifully perfect you are.  What if you loved your body?

Remember when you were a child? How much joy you had from your body. You could not get enough of it. It was there, helping you when you were learning to walk, to talk, and to eat, it allowed you the pleasure of touch, of smell, sights, hearing, and taste. It allowed you to soak in your surroundings. What a miracle your body was. So what changed? It’s time that you start to give yourself the freedom to be who you are, perfectly imperfect and authentically sexy! Give yourself the permission to be human. Permission to go back to the state of love you had when you were a child. Happiness is a choice, not a luxury, and it begins with you! You are worth loving. You are worthy of happiness and joy. Please remember that.

With love and joy,

Your future self

Louise Hay